Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Methods You Win Over Shyness

By Terrance Howard


Everyone experiences shyness in varying degrees. If it's something that causes you problems you will find yourself asking how to get over shyness. It can cause problems in work and in your personal life and stop you from getting the kind of life you want. It's a good idea to understand the causes of shyness before trying to look for solutions.

Shyness is usually rooted in fear. If you happen to be a quiet type of person you will have fear of speaking out and potentially drawing attention to yourself. Not all people are extroverted and if you're the exact opposite you'll find ways to express yourself in a low key fashion or choose not to do it at all. This may have a profound effect on any interactions you have and have negative consequences for all personal relationships.

This can also be rooted in insecurities. Certain people do not have self belief that what they have to contribute is valid. If this applies to you there will be a tendency to hide yourself from the rest of society and your self perception as a shy person will impact on communication. This can lead to the loss of opportunities that other people, more willing to behave in a riskier fashion can get.

Two things need to remembered in this instance. You will have to face fear head on at some point if you want anything to progress in your life. If there are issues with speaking in public then plan for a time when you will have to do it. Make preparations for this event and then take a bold step forward. By facing up to things you'll transform as person and be more capable of doing anything. This will mean you're more likely to succeed.

Your contributions are as available as those of anyone else. Even if confidence is what you lack when it comes to this, do not rush to make the assumption that what you're offering is of less relevance and use as those of others. Make sure that your voice is also one that is heard.

Preparing can be helpful to your progress. If you're bothered by social interactions then prepare a checklist before to ensure that you're comfortable with your behaviour. Plan ahead of time and you'll never feel like you're on the spot.

When faced with pressure situations in the workplace it helps if you communicate directly with those in charge to get your voice heard. Do not just stay silent when you think you can make a positive difference. Avoid situations where conflicts may arise like big team meetings and instead talk to individuals if there are things you think are important.

When dealing with romantic situations being self conscious can be debilitating and make you not take a positive step. When dealing with your heart you'll be rewarded if you're brave and forthright and reveal how you feel. If someone really interests you, show you are bold and dive right in. Even if it doesn't turn out as planned at least you will have learned something from the experience.




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