Thursday, June 9, 2011

Stop Tantrums In 3 Steps

By Chuck Taylor and Martha Davis, Co-Author


Simple Parenting Tools and Where To Find Them!

Have you ever witness a child's temper tantrum or misbehavior at the grocery store, park or elsewhere? It is the type of event that grabs the attention of everyone in the immediate area.

I've seen it many times and a percentage of the time it was my own child, having the tantrum or showing bad behavior. I was sometimes at a lost on how to prevent these unpredictable burst of misbehavior or worse the one that bothers me, the tantrum.

Why is my daughter acting this way and for apparently for no reason? When my daughter was born and even before her birth. I focused my energy on how to be a good parent. What method would I use in rearing my own child when the time came?

Here's where most of my thoughts were rooted. I was able to pinpoint my confusion, on the issue of parenting and why I was baffled. I ran across a little book that helped me immensely.

Come with me for a moment. The only direct parenting reference I had available was what I'd learned from my parents, which were as different as day and night.

On the one hand my dad used precalculated strategies to get me to behave without punishment or rewards. Looking back my dad used basic psychology to keep me behaving and properly tuned. He used phrases and keywords that made dad and I part of a team.

On the other hand my mother was only armed with 3 strategies when it came to parenting in the discipline category. If I didn't conform of her first request when she was certain I understood. Option 2 was immediately unleashed, physical punishment.

Now option 3 was the process of referring to option 2 and repeating the process as often as needed.

So that's where I was confused, would I use my father's approach or my mother's approach to rearing my own child or even a combination of the both. Well I decided to use a combination, rewards for good behavior and punishment for poor misbehavior.

I was certain this combination would work,and it worked on me. After all I turned out to be a productive citizen, isn't that what good parents want for their children?

I still believe I did a good job in parenting my child and thank goodness that my child turned out okay. It wasn't until recently I stumbled upon a book entitled The Happy Child Guide.

I discovered the method of parenting I adopted from my parents wasn't the most effective way of parenting that I could have used. Thinking punishment and rewards was an effective way of disciplining my child was one of the biggest time wasters and least effective.

You see as an older, wiser man I wanted to make sure that my grandchildren were well raised due to the way the world has changed. I set out to see what tools were available to help me and I found this wonderful little book, the Happy Child Guide.

I was not certain what to do when my child acted out or had a tantrum. This guide clearly informs you as to what to do in various situations when it comes to child behavior issues. Learn the real reasons why your child misbehaves and what actions you should take.

The Happy Child guide was composed to help parents have a happier, less stressful experience of parenthood. Also the book shares with parents who struggle with their child's behavior, some easy ways to help their child return to a natural loving and cooperative state.

I would encourage all parents to read this awesome book in order to understand some basic principles of their child's behavior.




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